Attending to our own wants, needs, and feelings has gotten a bad rap. So many people believe they must take care of others first and live with whatever is left after that. This strategy, which on the surface may appear compassionate, can not only deplete you but leave you angry at some level as well. It’s a pattern I see repeatedly when I go into the Akashic Records, a pattern that interferes with being authentic.
While it’s possible to be self-absorbed, self-obsessed, or even narcissistic when self-focus is carried to an extreme, most people, especially women, tend to err on the side of focusing on others instead of taking care of themselves. Oddly enough, that’s the good news. If you’ve got caretaking tendencies, the pendulum of self-care is unlikely to swing you too far away from your true responsibilities to others.
Self-care is generous, not selfish. The more satisfied you are in life, the more you have to offer others and the less likely you’ll resent giving. Feeling like a martyr or victim just doesn’t satisfy the way having your needs met does!