As gifted and powerful as you are, you can’t alter time. Yet if you’re like most people, you probably sometimes act like you can, trying to cram too much into the time you have, creating a sense of failure when you don’t finish everything. Overcommitting also creates an on-going pressure to perform, to hurry up and get through your continuously replenishing “to do” list which is impervious to how efficient you are. As long as you live you’ll create new aspirations and plans, but the hamster wheel only spins when you agree to run on it.
Clients who arrive or call late typically apologize by explaining all the tasks they were trying to finish before their appointment. In a sense, this attempt at time-warping is a form of violence, since it sets up unrealistic self-expectations resulting in regret and remorse. You also send a clear message to yourself when cramming in more tasks ranks ahead of honoring yourself by approaching your schedule with relaxed readiness.
Play with dropping some lower priority items in favor of slowing down. Lightening your self-imposed workload allows a spaciousness, a receptivity to a lovely detour or excursion, maybe even some play, spontaneity, or much needed rest. Down time allows creativity, compassion, and curiosity to surface. An added bonus is the time and hassle you’ll save not having to apologize or catch up!
How can you more deeply honor and enjoy the time you have? How do you give yourself permission to relax, to rest, and to just be?
For those interested in applying Jin Shin Jyutsu® acupressure for this, I invite you to visit my recent post The Fear Masked By “Trying To” containing the relevant self-help holds.