In the past week three clients arrived with the same issue. In each case the person felt discounted by a group of people, got angry, and let the people know. Expressing anger allowed them to demand to be heard, an improvement over saying nothing, yet it didn’t satisfy any one of them because the targets of their anger didn’t respond how the person wished. I assisted each client from their soul’s perspective in their individual Akashic Records but the common theme provoked me to investigate it further.
Although one case involved the client’s employees and the other two related to family members, each person’s “I won’t be marginalized” anger started with expecting people to behave out of character. We usually know what behaviors to expect since people tend to behave fairly consistently over time. Your anger may flare up when people don’t behave as you think they “should,” even when the preferred behavior wouldn’t be consistent with what you know about them. If you expect people to be who they are, you won’t find yourself flying into a rage when they do what they normally do instead of what you wish they would do. For example, if you’ve repeatedly asked your parents for money and they consistently decline, chances are the next time you ask they’ll say no. Would it be nice to have generous parents? Absolutely.
Knowing how the people in your life usually behave doesn’t mean you accept unacceptable behavior. It means you go in clear-sighted and aware of likely outcomes. If you need to set boundaries, you do so. If you need to request a change, you do. If you need to remove yourself from the situation, by all means take care of yourself. Otherwise bear in mind people tend to change slowly, if at all, and you get to choose how you approach your relationships knowing what you know about each person. Giving people room to be themselves, however messy or annoying they might seem in the moment, also frees you to be who you are. This situation reflects a primary theme of the records, namely how everyone is fundamentally good, even the people currently provoking you to anger. Strangely liberating for you and for them!