With my clients and in my own life, I invite deeper and deeper authenticity. Long ago I unconsciously morphed to please, particularly with authority figures, family members, and significant others. For example for many years, I adapted to each man I dated until I couldn’t stand it any more, then I’d find someone else and repeat the pattern. I just wanted harmonious relationships and to feel connected and loved, seeing it as a pattern came much later.
Self-acceptance largely determines how comfortably you reveal yourself to others. If you don’t know how authenticity feels it may take a while before you realize you’ll never feel satisfied pleasing others at your own expense. The most noticeable adapting occurs when you overtly adapt your behaviors to please, often unconsciously. You go along with whatever other people want to do as much as possible.
You might also adapt by concealing your thoughts and feelings, successfully avoiding conflict but also preventing the intimacy of being deeply seen, heard, and felt. All adapting betrays you at a soul level and when you value “nice” or accommodating or uncritical over authentic, self-concealment often becomes a habit, reflecting a systemic, usually long-standing, desire to avoid rejection and criticism. Examining your definition of a “good” wife, mother, employee, friend and so on may reveal how you inadvertently fall into this trap.
Our souls desire open authenticity. Your openly authentic words and behaviors align to you and your soul’s purposes on this planet. Inner conflict dissolves and with new confidence and clarity, you focus less on others’ approval and learn you can experience internal satisfaction without it.
The Akashic Records help build self-acceptance, confidence, and authenticity. Or for Jin Shin Jyutsu® acupressure self-help, apply the Heart, Small Intestine Organs, Safety Energy Locks 24, 25 or 26. Holding each pinkie Finger also supports this.
Authenticity empowers and elevates everyone. Have you become more authentic, more openly yourself? I invite you to post a success story!