Why do so many people believe in self-sabotage, convinced they deliberately trip themselves, purposely cultivating self-harm as they go? People wonder why they can’t leave an unsatisfying relationship, can’t improve their self-care, or can’t embrace abundance, concluding since they can’t do what seems obvious they must want to suffer. We know from the Akashic Records while you sometimes appear to act against your own best interests, you fundamentally want to preserve and sustain yourself, not harm yourself. Buried somewhere in everything you do lies a genuine benefit, something helpful.
Instead of criticizing yourself, give yourself the benefit of the doubt. For the moment, suspend believing self-loathing or a lack of self-discipline or any other supposed character flaw prevents change. The benefit of the doubt trusts your inner wisdom, trusts you know what you need until you don’t need it any more, trusts you look out for yourself. Change happens naturally when you’re ready and when you give yourself the benefit of the doubt you align with yourself and invite readiness. Plus when you make peace with your choices, from the ones you love to the ones you might regret, you interrupt your inner critic and the angst it brings.
Clearly we engage in behaviors that don’t appear to serve us as well as other actions might have. Know these “mistakes” serve you at a soul level. Wield the benefit of the doubt brush widely and wildly for yourself, connecting to the truth of always doing your best given your current skill set and mindset, how everything you experience optimizes your soul’s evolution, and how at a deep level you aim for what supports you even if you swear the evidence suggests otherwise.
What happens if you let yourself off the hook and give yourself the benefit of the doubt? Does the idea make you feel lighter or heavier?