While instituting fresh starts this year, consider releasing comparison. Comparing leads to suffering since it generally leads to someone evaluated as worth “less” versus someone else as worth “more.” If someone gets labeled smarter, prettier, or more personable, it means someone else becomes dumber, uglier, or less personable. Perceived inequities can lead to alienation, a feeling of separateness from the rest of the either superior or inferior humans. Comparison can also lead to pride or envy, neither of which satisfies at a soul level. When one of these “unequal” patterns surfaces during my Akashic Records readings, one person appears above the other, preventing direct eye contact between the two. If two people can’t make eye contact, they can’t connect at a heart level, either.
Feeling inferior alienates via a perceived deficit, feeling you don’t have what other humans do. You might work extra hard to compensate or you might give up. When the feeling gets intense, you might feel like isolating yourself to avoid the pain of “not enough,” of not belonging here or anywhere.
Feeling superior alienates through distinguishing yourself as better than others, perhaps even in a class all to yourself. Feeling superior can bring a variety of pitfalls with it: the frustration and annoyance with all the supposedly inferior beings, not feeling sufficiently revered, perhaps fear around needing to work to sustain your superiority, and the inherent loneliness of the belief “I’m the only one like me.”
To realize inner and outer peace and harmony, we have to move toward equality, existing on the same level, able to look each other directly in the eye instead of experiencing either disempowerment or grandiosity. Our gifts, skills, and attributes differ but we all contribute to the diverse whole and the amazing potential of humanity. Releasing estrangement from others and yourself powerfully impacts all beings. You might affirm “Who and how I am is perfect for me. Who and how they are is perfect for them.” For those applying Jin Shin Jyutsu® acupressure, Safety Energy Locks (SEL) 14, 24 through 26, organ flows Small Intestine and Heart, and your pinkie finger harmonize judging, comparing, and labeling.
How do you release comparing? What supports you feeling equal, seeing eye to eye?