Family gatherings may kindle warm memories, intense frustrations, or something more neutral. From your soul’s perspective, your family members including those acquired by marriage or adoption represent the optimal teachers and connections for you in this lifetime. According to the Akashic Records, you incarnate repeatedly with the same twenty to thirty souls and make pacts with them to explore specific themes and life lessons.
Every relationship, even ones with frustrating family members, helps you advance your realization of your innate soul-level goodness. You sometimes learn this best via difficult people and relationships and other times through ample harmony and support. The angst-inducing ones may not make sense from your human perspective since a neglectful parent, an abusive spouse, or a mean-spirited child could undermine your faith in human goodness. Over time, however, they may provide the ideal fuel to recognize your value doesn’t depend on others and you can choose what actions best support your development and satisfaction.
My Akashic Records teacher Linda Howe suggests asking “How is this good for me?” resorting to “How can this possibly be good for me?” as needed. Look for the positive aspects of a given relationship. So say you experience a tumultuous marriage which ends in a messy divorce. How could it possibly be good for you? Perhaps you learned great self-care or developed some authentic and supportive friendships or learned to voice your opinion. Every experience, even with “characters” you associate with turmoil in your life, invites you back to yourself and your fundamental wholeness.
Most people have family members they relate to better than others. What happens when you view your more challenging relatives as soul-level teachers?