All too often people feel either inferior or superior to others. True humility lies in the truth between those poles, where you know your inherent value and don’t need to convince yourself or others of it. Unfortunately before you reach this place of comfort and ease, you may act either at your own or other people’s expense, trying to console yourself.
True humility doesn’t need to draw attention to itself and so connections to others come naturally, without effort. When humble, you don’t feel compelled to broadcast your magnificence nor have anyone stroke you for it. Likewise you don’t need to play small to appear less threatening. You feel comfortable with yourself which allows people around you to relax as well.
Having humility doesn’t mean you undervalue yourself. Humility, derived from the same root word as humus (earth), arises from a grounded awareness which neither inflates nor diminishes you. The myriad ways you can distort your value speaks to the fear-based urge to distinguish yourself as special, different, or perhaps in a class all your own either higher or lower than others. To transcend this brings peace both inside and out.
From a Jin Shin Jyutsu® acupressure perspective, feeling inferior or superior both connote “trying to,” not embracing your true self but instead playing a character with a distorted self-image. Harmonize pretense with Organ Function self-helps Heart (also for dictatorial thoughts directed both inwardly and outwardly) and Small Intestine (unconditional love) and Safety Energy Locks 24 (harmonize chaos), 25 (be still), and 26 (peace and harmony). I recommend holding self-helps for thirty-six out-breaths and in-breaths or until it feels complete.
When do you feel most comfortable in your own skin? Do you feel differently about being humble versus being humbled?