Beyond Labels

helloMod_smToday most people define themselves by their roles but at a soul level you transcend these external descriptors.  According to the Akashic Records, you incarnate in every imaginable configuration over your lifetimes, playing every role including mother, father, daughter, son, brother, and sister.  You could frame it as playing a character, with your physical self and personality as your costume and your life circumstances determining your role.

What happens when you let your degrees, titles, career, and family roles become less important?  Even if you don’t believe in reincarnation, identifying too deeply with your roles can bring unhappiness, particularly if you feel you should behave a certain way simply because of the role.  Evolution occurs when you begin to see beyond what defines you in everyday life, to understand roles often limit rather than expand you.

Over enough lifetimes you experience various levels of abundance, health, intellect, connection, and whatever other quality you can imagine.  While you may feel attached to a particular aspect of your life, relieved you sidestepped someone else’s challenge, you likely experienced the same issues at some point in your soul’s desire to realize everyone’s fundamental goodness.  If you don’t believe in multiple lifetimes, consider it from the perspective of connectivity, how each of us impacts all of us.  Everyone benefits from higher consciousness which can result from challenges as well as gifts.

Every soul wants to love deeply and well, to transcend limiting roles and conditions, and to live a joyful life.  Notice where your roles feel limiting or separate you from humanity in some way.  Seek to expand beyond your roles rather than contract into them since a contracted state doesn’t feel good.  Define your own roles, don’t let them define you.

Which of your roles mean the most to you?  Has this changed over time?



  1. Hi Christy, Love this => “Define your own roles, don’t let them define you.” For 31 years, I clung to my label as “teacher” and, in the early days of retirement, I would introduce myself as a retired teacher. It’s taken a while, but I am now starting to see beyond those very narrow definitions and embrace my creative side. Thanks for another great post. Joanne 🙂


    • Hi Joanne,
      Isn’t it fascinating how we even define ourselves by roles we used to have? These days I’m startled when people refer to me as an engineer, it just doesn’t fit any more.

      I love hearing you’re embracing your creative side, that’s fantastic!

      You’re welcome and thank *you*. You always seem to add something which sparks a deeper understanding for me. 🙂



  2. Hi Christy – I’ve recently been contemplating how our societal structures such as the law and religion help us to function well on the one had, yet limit us in other ways. This blog post therefore fits nicely into that conceptual framework and zooms it down to the individual rather than society as a whole. I like your phrase of “relieved you sidestepped someone else’s challenge”. It seems that relief can manifest itself in us as grace or fear depending upon how we handle it. I’m left with a feeling of expansion after reading this, which feels good. How would you see this idea as different or the same as looking at our archetypal patterns?
    Thanks as always for great wisdom and insight.


    • Hi Tricia,
      I love your musings on the benefit and drawbacks of our societal structures – so true! Sidestepping a challenge can definitely manifest as grace or fear or even judgment, so glad I’m not like that poor sap etc., it helps to remember we’re all in this together and we don’t actually sidestep anything at an energetic level.

      I think archetypal patterns can liberate us when they help us feel like everything is right with the world and with us as well but can limit us when we use it to explain some perceived frailty or downfall which we then feel stuck with because “it’s just who I am.” Like any label, it can help or harm.

      You’re welcome and thank you for your sharing!

      Warm regards,


  3. Hi Christy,
    I am truly amazed at how you speak to me through your blog posts. This post is so relevant to sensitive family issues going on right now for me. Then, later in the week, I was working with a colleague on a project and low and behold, this lights up again! As I mentioned on twitter, labels have never worked for me and with all of this synchronicity and feel validated in those feelings. Thank you for helping me Trust Myself.



    • Hi Lori,
      I love how we find just what we need when we need it and I’m glad my post served this purpose for you! Labels prop us up sometimes and other times undermine us, they can be tricky if we over-identify with them. You’re welcome regarding the support in developing self-trust. May this super-power continue to grow for you!


  4. I love this line: Every soul wants to love deeply and well, to transcend limiting roles and conditions, and to live a joyful life. What a beautiful mantra, Christy!
    Thank you!
    Have a wonderful week.
    Until the next time,


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