Cultivate Soul Sight

heartWorld_smIn my blog post Soul Sight, I wrote about how life transforms when you can look beyond personalities and see people from a soul’s perspective.  Since some readers responded with variations of “easier said than done,” I decided to explore what interferes with soul sight.

Egos love to be right and to label the other person as wrong.  How can you possibly apply soul sight to people who cause trouble, spread their unhappiness, or harm others in some way?  Beyond right and wrong lies our shared humanity where all people, especially the giver, benefit from loving kindness.  To develop it, you start with the people you can easily accept and work your way toward to the human porcupines whose quills range from prickly to dangerous.  Loving kindness practice opens your heart to allow more love to enter and to transform you and your experience.

You don’t lose when you accept others and their challenges.  We know from the Akashic Records even the most egregious criminal exists so others, and most likely he or she as well, can develop love and compassion.  You don’t have to make peace with their acts or behaviors, but huge shifts can occur when you allow your heart to soften, to include the suffering of all beings including those whose blindness prevents them from seeing what they do, how they hurt others and thus themselves.  We become lighter when we deeply understand people would behave better if they could find a way to do so.

In some cases you may believe holding on to what took place prevents further harm.  Yet a shift occurs when you integrate the learning from a difficult experience or person, bringing an internal assurance which transcends any outer boundary setting or precaution.  Awareness and self-trust protect you far better than fear.  Perhaps the maxim “Once burned, twice resilient,” could replace “Once burned, twice shy.”

Soul sight becomes easier when you don’t take things personally.  What if the problematic person’s behavior which appears directed at you would apply to anyone in the same relationship with them?  When you can sidestep personal hurt, the ego’s desire to make it about you, you can view others more objectively.

What challenges do you have with soul sight?  How would you feel if others saw your fundamental goodness even when it seems remote to you?


  1. Hi Christy – I like the expression ‘human porcupine’ and find it remarkably efficient. As I read this post it brings to mind two concepts I have been mentally ‘playing’ with. I hope they seem as relevant as they appear to me. It seems that the more we embrace, identifiy and acknowledge the lower vibration parts of ourselves and others, the more we can remain in our power to manage them.
    The comment that ‘awareness and self-trust protect us far better than fear’ brings for the notion of being disillusioned with our fears.
    As always, thank you for your beautiful insights.


    • Hi Tricia,
      Thanks for your comment. Yes, awareness heals! We can’t help but behave differently and stand more in our power when we become more conscious. Fear is powerful and devious, masquerading as protector and benefactor, creating those disillusions you mention and yet we can learn to transcend fear through developing both our awareness and coping skills. Onward and upward!

      You’re welcome! So glad my posts resonate. 🙂

      All the best,


  2. Hi Christy,

    I was one of the people who left a comment on your last post (and just went and re-read everyone’s comments). I agreed that soul sight is a beautiful ultimate goal and yes, I’m one that also believes it’s easier said then done. Not that it shouldn’t be done or that we should neglect cultivating it! 🙂

    My perspectives on this stems from wanting to build the bridges between our intellectual ideas of spiritual principles that sometimes have an unrealistic premise when it comes to real world situations. In that context, it’s not a matter of right or wrong or having black and white thinking, it’s more of an understanding that it’s a journey…a process.

    Example, I was sexually abused as a child and although I am able to look at my abuser with ‘soul sight’ it is not done in complete ignorance. I would not trust any child to be left alone with a known pedophile. That’s not lacking soul sight. That’s wisdom. One doesn’t even need to be ‘in fear’ in order to come to that conclusion. We can have soul sight and make decisions that are in the best interests of vulnerable people. We must also accept the current ‘consciousness’ of the people in the present even though underneath it all, they come from the same soulful ‘source’.

    Our individual awakenings and awareness is a life long journey.

    So just wanting to emphasize that I wasn’t disagreeing with you in your last post because I LOVE the ‘soul journey’! : ) Yet due to my own background, and coming from that perspective, it’s by no means an instant one. And it’s far more then an intellectual exercise. And that’s why it takes us much longer to ‘experience’ it.

    Hope that makes better sense with some background info! : )

    Thanks for sharing Christy. xo


    • Hi Samantha,
      Thanks for another great post. Yes, you were one of those who pointed to the real life challenges with soul sight. I also heard from someone on Twitter and a few clients privately along the same lines. I know from experience it’s easier said than done and agree cultivating it still has value. 🙂

      I’m completely with you regarding abuse. Soul sight does not mean condoning or ignoring inappropriate behavior toward yourself or others. Ever. It means having the wisdom (as you mentioned) to trust your awareness of what is safe and what isn’t. That discernment can save you and others physically, mentally, and emotionally. Soul sight to me is acceptance of reality and taking into account a person’s consciousness is part of this!

      I’ve been on my soul journey for about twenty years now and none of this comes instantaneously to me and I do not mean to imply it shall for others either. Every day brings me a new challenge, often over terrain I thought I already traveled. It definitely keeps me humble! Having said that, I’ve also personally experienced huge shifts in my life applying soul sight in my most historically challenging relationships so it can work in the real world. It isn’t a panacea but it can be a real shifter.

      You’re welcome and thank you for sharing your wisdom and experience.
      Warm regards,


  3. You said it all right here >>

    ‘Soul sight to me is acceptance of reality and taking into account a person’s consciousness is part of this!’

    That’s exactly what I’m saying and how I feel about it! : )

    Our challenge remains to accept reality as it is rather then how we would prefer it to be or on the opposite side of the house, tainted with the lens of our misconceptions and assumptions we humans tend to tack onto ‘what is’.

    I totally here you in regards to the ongoing realities and the soul journey. This year presented yet a new set of challenged with my mom being diagnosed with cancer earlier in the year, including all of the surgery and radiation that came with it. Not knowing if she would make it through… followed by the suicide of my next door neighbor who also happened to be a relative of mine by marriage at the end of July! Completely rocked my world for multiple reasons! ie. clashing with all sorts of ‘beliefs’, picking at some dormant fears, also frustrated that I’m having to grieve YET AGAIN! (and haven’t been able to escape it at all … crying off and on for days especially when I first found out etc)

    So this year it’s been of those…ENOUGH ALREADY! haha

    Nuff! Mercy! Uncle!

    Time for a sabbatical at Plum Village in France with Thich Naht Hanh… where the most complicated thing I have to do is mindfully walk and sip my tea. (grins)


    • Wow, Samantha, you’re definitely having one of those big, hard years. Best wishes to your mother and to everyone connected to your next door neighbor including you!

      Save a place for me in Plum Village, we’re experiencing one of those difficult family health crises ourselves right now. I’m practicing the mantra “Take it as it comes.”

      Much love,


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