In my blog post Soul Sight, I wrote about how life transforms when you can look beyond personalities and see people from a soul’s perspective. Since some readers responded with variations of “easier said than done,” I decided to explore what interferes with soul sight.
Egos love to be right and to label the other person as wrong. How can you possibly apply soul sight to people who cause trouble, spread their unhappiness, or harm others in some way? Beyond right and wrong lies our shared humanity where all people, especially the giver, benefit from loving kindness. To develop it, you start with the people you can easily accept and work your way toward to the human porcupines whose quills range from prickly to dangerous. Loving kindness practice opens your heart to allow more love to enter and to transform you and your experience.
You don’t lose when you accept others and their challenges. We know from the Akashic Records even the most egregious criminal exists so others, and most likely he or she as well, can develop love and compassion. You don’t have to make peace with their acts or behaviors, but huge shifts can occur when you allow your heart to soften, to include the suffering of all beings including those whose blindness prevents them from seeing what they do, how they hurt others and thus themselves. We become lighter when we deeply understand people would behave better if they could find a way to do so.
In some cases you may believe holding on to what took place prevents further harm. Yet a shift occurs when you integrate the learning from a difficult experience or person, bringing an internal assurance which transcends any outer boundary setting or precaution. Awareness and self-trust protect you far better than fear. Perhaps the maxim “Once burned, twice resilient,” could replace “Once burned, twice shy.”
Soul sight becomes easier when you don’t take things personally. What if the problematic person’s behavior which appears directed at you would apply to anyone in the same relationship with them? When you can sidestep personal hurt, the ego’s desire to make it about you, you can view others more objectively.
What challenges do you have with soul sight? How would you feel if others saw your fundamental goodness even when it seems remote to you?