Fortunately the phrase “Take it as it comes,” which I first heard during Transcendental Meditation (TM) training this summer, came just when I needed it, right before my father unexpectedly fell seriously ill in early September. Throughout the long and intense month of his hospitalization and subsequent passing I often reminded myself and my mother to take it as it comes. The enormity of the situation required a severely scaled down view, trusting what arose could be managed a little bit at a time. Even now as I help my mother, who lives fifteen hours away, cope with the loss and her abrupt introduction to the world of bills, home maintenance, and driving herself where she feels confident or arranging transportation where she does not, I repeat this phrase.
Take it: Taking it requires a certain level of resilience and assurance, knowing somehow you’ll handle what comes, even what you don’t want to face. When you take it, you show up for the experience at hand. Conversely, consider what happens when you tell yourself “I can’t take this!” If you believe this thought, coping with an already difficult situation may seem impossible. As always, however you respond aligns perfectly to you and your soul’s evolution.
As it comes: Taking it “as it comes” means you understand you do not control what comes, only how you respond to it. With my father’s situation this meant sitting with facts, often hard ones, rather than fast-forwarding to the even more negative scenarios our minds could create from the information we received. The more fluidly you can adapt to your outer circumstances, the more clearly you can discern what actions to take in the moment. Your awareness and choices connect you to future possibilities.
It comes: Life and death both happen to you no matter what you choose, prefer, or believe. Likewise unexpected opportunities, experiences, and people appear. The more you can relax into the mystery of what life and death bring, the more vibrantly you can enjoy each moment.
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