While we know everyone always does their best, imperfect humans often fall short when it comes to parenting. Children with less than adequate parents may not feel protected or safe, a feeling they may carry into adulthood. While transcending whatever such challenges you face may seem daunting, you incarnate able to overcome far more than you may think, including old well-worn patterns from childhood.
Present day fears related to feeling unsafe may surface as a fear of speaking, overwhelm around others, and a desire to isolate. Mantras such as “I am safe, protected, and assured,” may help alleviate some lesser angst. Filling yourself with golden light and love, energetically stepping into yourself, and getting grounded may also help. Some people also use energy protection strategies such as creating an impermeable bubble around themselves but I find if I fully inhabit my body I don’t absorb other people’s stuff and I feel socially at ease.
For the deeper, older insecurities below the conscious level, Jin Shin Jyutsu® (JSJ) Japanese acupressure offers many options for harmony. All the self-helps associated with worry support self-protection and self-esteem. They include Safety Energy Lock (SEL) 1 through 4, Organ Function Energies Stomach and Spleen, and the thumb. SEL 1 supports letting go, 2 helps with self-esteem, 3 supports your immunity to everything including people, and 4 assists with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). In addition, SEL 8 (truly in your body), SEL 21 (mental freedom), and Heart Organ Function Energy all support feeling secure.
Another great JSJ harmonizer I’ve personally found powerful for the more calcified sense of “unsafe” involves holding the opposite side SEL 26 with the opposite side SEL 2. In other words, you “give yourself a hug” encasing your left armpit (your fingers rest on the 26 directly behind your armpit, thumb rests in front of your armpit) with your right hand, while reaching your left hand behind you across to the right 2 at the top of the hipbone. Apply the mirror image (left hand on right 26, right hand on left 2) for the other side. You can also hold SEL 19 on your top inner elbow as an alternative for SEL 26 in this case.
How do you comfort and protect yourself when you either don’t feel safe or feel ill at ease with people?
Note: This post addresses lingering issues around not feeling internally safe and protected, not to any on-going external threat. If you’re currently in a situation where you don’t feel physically safe, please take appropriate actions to ensure your health and well-being.