Change may shadow, lead, haunt, encourage, or grow you. Change, your constant companion, often comes unbidden and not in the form you anticipate or desire. You may either love or hate change, depending on the outcome and whether you initiated it.
Change elasticity favors the young, those not yet set in their ways. During college and graduate school, for example, I moved twenty times in ten years. I lived in three dorms, a sorority, rented a room in three different houses, lived in apartments with and without roommates, and lived with my parents for a summer. I also worked seven semesters at IBM with differing job responsibilities each time. Looking back I marvel at my flexibility. My mother’s life unfortunately reflects a sharp contrast to my experience. Five months ago my father, who managed most of life’s practical details, passed away unexpectedly and this past week her next door neighbor got burglarized which ended the fifty crime-free years there. Her world, unchanged for decades, now demands intense and sudden unwanted adaptation.
The absence of change may bring stagnation. From a Jin Shin Jyutsu® (JSJ) acupressure perspective where your breath determines your harmony, change occurs in every inhale and exhale as well as in the interim pauses. When you don’t exhale properly, you may accumulate energy such as tumors, constipation, pain, toxins, or clutter. When inhaling insufficiently you may not receive or assimilate enough energy, nutrients, or enough support from friends, family, or your environment. Harmonizing change means you balance your inhale and exhale, you take life as it comes.
How can you initiate self-supportive changes and manage unwanted ones thrust upon you? Invite change harmonizing with JSJ self-helps: Safety Energy Lock (SEL) 9 assists with beginnings and endings; 15 changes your focus and your mind; 16 clears your head and invites transformation; 22 brings adaptation; and the 5 to 8 flow (right on right 5, left on left 15, then left on left 5, right on right 15) clears your head and reduces fear. As always, I recommend holding the self-helps for thirty-six out-breaths and in-breaths or until they feel done.
What helps you harmonize and invite change? How do you reframe change so you don’t feel victimized by it?