Last week I co-hosted a Positive Fabulous Women chat (#pfwchat) on the topic of prioritizing self-care. The replies to my question “Where does self-care rank in your priorities?” reinforced my impression that self-care continues to challenge us. Many long to make themselves a top priority but it remains a wish, not a reality. Others seem to understand the value of filling their own well before giving.
Self-care increases your efficiency, effectiveness, and compassion. Self-care somehow gets misconstrued as selfish or self-centered when people overemphasize the “self” and underemphasize the “care.” Self-neglect doesn’t bring health, harmony, or happiness. Self-care does because it honors and feeds you, enhancing both your receptivity and generosity.
When you practice self-care you reinforce the behavior. Each self-nurturing action you take, even if it feels like a fake it until you make it move, gets internally processed as a supportive choice which in turn invites more of them. Self-worth depends in part on how you act toward yourself.
During Akashic Records readings people are often told not to give “at their own expense,” meaning self-depleting in order to give. Choosing to take care of yourself first puts you in a position of strength because you take care of your needs rather than letting them build until you become ill or exhausted. Self-sacrifice emanates from weakness, from not recognizing your own worthiness.
I drafted the following questions for the chat although I did not have time to ask all of them. Please feel free to share your answers to any or all of them.
Q1 What does self-care look & feel like to you?
Q2 Where does self-care rank in your priorities?
Q3 Is self-care selfish? Who decides?
Q4 Does practicing it mean you’re weak or strong?
Q5 Can there be too much self-care?
Q6 What stressors amp your need for it?
Q7 How does your self-care help others?
Q8 Any self-care tools & tips to share?
My quick answer: I love acupressure self-helps. Harmonize emotions with your own fingers!
Q9 Have you ever partnered with a self-care buddy?
Q10 In the next week, what (if any) self-care shift would you like to make?