I began writing this post while on the plane headed to my mother’s home to help her clear fifty years of accumulated items, move and store what she’ll need in Vermont, sell two cars, and start the home selling process with a realtor. Both of us must begin again, to adjust to our new reality, to cope with both the practical and emotional aspects of a huge life transition. To cope with the chaos of this time, I must return to what matters most to me, downsizing my self-expectations along with my mother’s belongings.
“Simply be yourself.” Simple but not easy when you want to alleviate someone’s suffering or to avoid judgment or to keep the unwanted and unhelpful internal voices at bay. Simply being yourself preloads healing, as it propels you into a zone of effectiveness, alignment, and ease.
“Look past the fanfare and drama to what is enduring.” Fanfare and drama can distract you, to perhaps miss the deeper importance and meaning of the unfolding events. As my blog reader Joanne Guidoccio reminded me last week, it helps to ask whether the current issue will matter in ten years. It may not matter in ten months, days, or even minutes.
“Take time to clarify what is important to you and let nonessentials fall away.” A mindful inventory of what does and doesn’t matter to you can dramatically improve your satisfaction and your productivity. You cannot address core issues when caught in minutia, just as I face gridlock when I take my eye off the “crumbs” on my mother’s move – Cars, Realtor, Move (making sure she retrieves her essentials and treasures), and Shred.
How do you know when you need to simplify? What brings you back to what matters to you?
*Simplicity quotes from The Original Angel Card Book – Inspirational Messages and Meditations by Kathy Tyler and Joy Drake