Resilience: Strengthen What Sustains You

loneTree_smSoon we complete the fourth week of eight of my mother’s stay with us. While it helps to now know when she can move into her retirement apartment, I must strengthen my resilience “muscle” to sustain this temporary living situation with as much normalcy for my husband and me as possible. Providing meals, shelter, and transportation for someone requires significant internal and external adjustments.

“Resilience: Take what comes in your stride and let your energy rebound.” In my blog post Take It As It Comes, I wrote about being with whatever arises. Resilience also preserves your energy, allowing you to spend it more efficiently and effectively rather than burning it fighting reality. As Byron Katie says, “When I argue with reality, I lose—but only 100% of the time.” Taking life in stride frees you to focus on what happens, rather than on what you think could or should happen. Imagine how much energy we could collectively reclaim if we stopped struggling against our current experiences!

“Build positive momentum, elasticity, and endurance.” Resilience reminds you life flows, moves, and evolves even when you feel stuck. Sometimes it helps to put faith in micro-movements, those tiny, perhaps indiscernible, steps forward.  According to the Akashic Records you always move forward, not back, even if your behaviors may not yet reflect your internal shifts. Elasticity represents your internal bounce and stretchiness, the ability to begin again as needed and to adapt. Endurance speaks to the longevity of your willingness. Restarting takes courage and conviction. Life is a marathon, not a sprint.

“Show up with equanimity regardless of what is going on.” Dictionary.com defines equanimity as “mental or emotional stability or composure, especially under tension or strain; calmness; equilibrium.” While developing equanimity you learn to recognize and sidestep obstacles. In Jin Shin Jyutsu® acupressure, Safety Energy Locks (SELs) 10, 11, 12, and 13 self-helps all support mental/emotional harmony.

Has your resilience grown over time? Do you see a connection between resilience and patience? How do you access your resilience?

*The resilience quotes come from The Original Angel Card Book – Inspirational Messages and Meditations by Kathy Tyler and Joy Drake.

8 comments

  1. Hi Christy, Love the quote from Byron Katie. We simply can’t argue with 100%–it’s absolute! But yet we continue to resist. I’m glad to hear your mother has a definite date for her apartment. Whenever I’m going through a challenging situation, I like to apply extra TLC. Consider rewarding yourself each of the remaining weeks with a special treat – food, spa treatment, clothes,etc. Hang in there! Joanne 🙂

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    • Hi Joanne,
      Thanks for the chuckle – absolutes are awesome, aren’t they? Thank you also for your support. My current TLC dilemma reminds me of the “if you don’t have time to meditate, you need it twice as much” maxim – it’s hard to work in that TLC right now but yes, I need it! 🙂
      All the best,
      Christy

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  2. Hi Christy,
    Oh this was every element I needed to hear….again…today, tomorrow, the day after tomorrow, and on and on.
    As always, thank you for your support, and the opportunity to learn from your growth.
    Tricia

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    • Hi Tricia,
      Thank *you* and you’re welcome! I’d say it’s a case of a rising tide lifting all boats since we’re all teaching and learning continuously, whether we realize it or not. 🙂
      Big hugs to you,
      Christy

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  3. I love this: “Endurance speaks to the longevity of your willingness.” I remember “acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today.” Thank you for the reminder.
    Sending lots of positive energy and prayers,
    Julie

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  4. When I walk in the woods I know where I am going, but I focus on my breathing and steps. “Moving forward.” I am always amazed at the resilience we are capable of when the need arises. In retrospect I think, “how did I do that?”

    The good hard work and the loving gifts you are giving your Mom are priceless. How lucky you both are!
    Al❤ha, Leia

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    • Thanks for your comment, Leia. You’ve succinctly captured how most of us get through challenges. We move forward somehow, step by step, until we reach the other side and wonder how we managed. Many times I’ve overcome an obstacle that even in hindsight I couldn’t imagine surmounting. Thanks for your encouragement.
      Much aloha to you,
      Christy

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