Soon we complete the fourth week of eight of my mother’s stay with us. While it helps to now know when she can move into her retirement apartment, I must strengthen my resilience “muscle” to sustain this temporary living situation with as much normalcy for my husband and me as possible. Providing meals, shelter, and transportation for someone requires significant internal and external adjustments.
“Resilience: Take what comes in your stride and let your energy rebound.” In my blog post Take It As It Comes, I wrote about being with whatever arises. Resilience also preserves your energy, allowing you to spend it more efficiently and effectively rather than burning it fighting reality. As Byron Katie says, “When I argue with reality, I lose—but only 100% of the time.” Taking life in stride frees you to focus on what happens, rather than on what you think could or should happen. Imagine how much energy we could collectively reclaim if we stopped struggling against our current experiences!
“Build positive momentum, elasticity, and endurance.” Resilience reminds you life flows, moves, and evolves even when you feel stuck. Sometimes it helps to put faith in micro-movements, those tiny, perhaps indiscernible, steps forward. According to the Akashic Records you always move forward, not back, even if your behaviors may not yet reflect your internal shifts. Elasticity represents your internal bounce and stretchiness, the ability to begin again as needed and to adapt. Endurance speaks to the longevity of your willingness. Restarting takes courage and conviction. Life is a marathon, not a sprint.
“Show up with equanimity regardless of what is going on.” Dictionary.com defines equanimity as “
Has your resilience grown over time? Do you see a connection between resilience and patience? How do you access your resilience?
*The resilience quotes come from The Original Angel Card Book – Inspirational Messages and Meditations by Kathy Tyler and Joy Drake.