Responsibility: Empowered Action

yinYang_smYears ago a driver who rear-ended my stopped car, propelling it into the car ahead of mine, asked me, “Wasn’t the light green?” Needless to say, the driver’s inattention, not the green light, caused my whiplash.

Appropriate responsibility allows you to discern what you “own” and what to do about it. If you tend toward over-responsibility, like I do, you may take on more than your share hoping to avoid blame. After all, what more could you have done? Avoiding blame often underpins under-responsibility as well, giving a free “I didn’t do it” pass.

Dictionary.com defines blame as “to hold responsible.” Blame and criticism, either from others or ourselves, never feel good. Yet the other side of blame, getting credit, never lasts like the internal satisfaction of doing the right thing. Fortunately credit and blame both dissolve when you focus on what serves everyone’s highest good. I remind myself of this as we enter the seventh week of my mother’s extended stay with us.

“Responsibility – The ability to respond to life as a series of personal decisions.”  You tailor every decision through the filter of your soul work, the influence of your traveling companions in this lifetime, and all the other factors determining your character. Life brings you what you need as a soul and you respond accordingly.

“Staying accountable for your actions strengthens your freedom to choose and builds self-respect.” Internal accountability allows you to honor your commitments both at the soul and human level. Fulfilling your responsibilities strengthens your internal scaffolding.

In Jin Shin Jyutsu® (JSJ) Japanese acupressure, Safety Energy Lock (SEL) 7 supports both responsible and awakened, a perfect duo for appropriate responsibility. SEL 7 also connects you to heaven and earth, great support when your responsibilities feel overwhelming.

Which feels more empowering, to accept appropriate responsibilities or decline inappropriate ones?

*The responsibility quotes come from The Original Angel Card Book – Inspirational Messages and Meditations by Kathy Tyler and Joy Drake.

4 comments

  1. Hi Christy, I also tend to take on too much responsibility. Often, I’ve been called the “fixer” and expected to jump in and solve the problem. In retirement, I’m easing away from that role and focusing more attention on my own needs. Thanks for sharing another thought-provoking post. Joanne 🙂

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  2. Hi Christy,
    This reminds me of some wise words from a therapist several years ago who told me it might be a good idea to hang up my responsibility cape and retire it. She brought awareness to my actions that I didn’t see in my life. Up until then, I too, felt like a fixer as Joanne mentions above. Now, I realize that is not my responsibility. Whew, thank goodness for this awareness. It was exhausting.

    Another fabulous post, Christy.
    Thank you!
    Lori

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    • Hi Lori,
      Thanks for your comment and for sharing your responsibility evolution. Over-responsibility is powerfully seductive, I must say, since we all want to help others when we can. I think many (most?) of us need a lightning bolt of awareness either internally or externally in order to scale our responsibility appropriately. Thank goodness for learning!
      Great to see you as always,
      Christy

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