Years ago a driver who rear-ended my stopped car, propelling it into the car ahead of mine, asked me, “Wasn’t the light green?” Needless to say, the driver’s inattention, not the green light, caused my whiplash.
Appropriate responsibility allows you to discern what you “own” and what to do about it. If you tend toward over-responsibility, like I do, you may take on more than your share hoping to avoid blame. After all, what more could you have done? Avoiding blame often underpins under-responsibility as well, giving a free “I didn’t do it” pass.
Dictionary.com defines blame as “to hold responsible.” Blame and criticism, either from others or ourselves, never feel good. Yet the other side of blame, getting credit, never lasts like the internal satisfaction of doing the right thing. Fortunately credit and blame both dissolve when you focus on what serves everyone’s highest good. I remind myself of this as we enter the seventh week of my mother’s extended stay with us.
“Responsibility – The ability to respond to life as a series of personal decisions.” You tailor every decision through the filter of your soul work, the influence of your traveling companions in this lifetime, and all the other factors determining your character. Life brings you what you need as a soul and you respond accordingly.
“Staying accountable for your actions strengthens your freedom to choose and builds self-respect.” Internal accountability allows you to honor your commitments both at the soul and human level. Fulfilling your responsibilities strengthens your internal scaffolding.
In Jin Shin Jyutsu® (JSJ) Japanese acupressure, Safety Energy Lock (SEL) 7 supports both responsible and awakened, a perfect duo for appropriate responsibility. SEL 7 also connects you to heaven and earth, great support when your responsibilities feel overwhelming.
Which feels more empowering, to accept appropriate responsibilities or decline inappropriate ones?
*The responsibility quotes come from The Original Angel Card Book – Inspirational Messages and Meditations by Kathy Tyler and Joy Drake.