Tenderness: Strength in Softness

Tenderness Rose“Tenderness: Take actions that reflect the wisdom of your heart. Give generously and freely, and treat yourself and others with kindness and caring.” Tenderness of the heart opens you to giving and receiving love. A hardened heart must melt to transform into a tender one. Tenderness also implies sensitivity and gentleness. Revealing yourself exposes your tender underbelly. The willingness to take this risk demonstrates the strength in not needing to defend yourself.

Tenderness can also refer to emotional or physical soreness, an area aggravated by overuse, injury, or illness. When tender, you experience hardness. Something or someone opposes you. This includes using your thoughts against yourself, poking yourself where you feel most vulnerable. Pain results from too much energy concentrated in one place. Tenderness allows you to soften into the hard places and keep the energy flowing freely.

Hardness and constriction can lead to mental, emotional, or physical calcification. In Jin Shin Jyutsu® Japanese acupressure, the Safety Energy Lock 9 self-help (use the more accessible SEL 19) addresses existing calcification. To prevent it, apply the self-helps in the Third Depth; Organ Function Energies Gallbladder and Liver, middle finger, and SEL 16 through 22. These holds all harmonize anger and invite compassion which brings softness.

Tender also refers to currency. Spiritual tender comes in the form of love, not money. The more love you give and receive, the more richness you experience and the greater your impact on everyone you encounter. This initiates a rewarding cycle instead of a vicious one, building upon itself as it increasingly contributes to the highest good of all. To increase the abundance of love in your life, you can practice gratitude, expectancy, and acceptance.

How do you view tenderness? Does it feel like a relief or threatening?

The tenderness quote comes from The Original Angel Card Book – Inspirational Messages and Meditations by Kathy Tyler and Joy Drake.


  1. Hi Christy, Your post reminds me of Brene Brown’s books about vulnerability. Exposing our tender underbellies is difficult but essential for our personal growth. Thanks for another inspiring post. Joanne 🙂


  2. ‘Spiritual tender comes in the form of love, not money’ – that’s a great way to view spirituality, and the currency that keeps the spiritual economy growing! Thanks for sharing these thoughts and reminders. Namaste 🙂


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