I confess I’m a recovered self-improvement addict. I believe this attachment to self-improvement resulted from conditioning by my family and society to value high achievement and embrace ever-increasing standards. From a Jin Shin Jyutsu® acupressure perspective, my astrological sign Leo also contributes to my “Trying to” or effort. Thus I have embarrassingly extensive experience with resolutions, plans, makeovers, do-overs, and various other “how can I do better or be better” strategies. Over time I realized “better” means more authentic and heart-centered, not necessarily more externally accomplished.
Resolutions used to excite me. Finally a chance to start over and get it right. Of course, like most people, the jubilation only lasted as long as my resolve. Also like most people, my resolve lasted far less than the twelve months which would provide another opportunity for a sweeping fresh start. Plus failed resolutions made me feel like a failure.
I prefer setting intentions to creating resolutions. This appeals to me because it suggests opening a door instead of fighting to keep one closed, to resist the forbidden. Plus I can focus on my soul evolution rather than lock horns with human perfectionism.
I like to do the math as I evolve into my authentic self. What can I add to my life which supports me feeling more whole, more in harmony with my highest good as well as the highest good of everyone connected to me? What behaviors, relationships, or activities interfering with my soul evolution can I subtract? What multiplies my joy and aliveness? How can I divide (share!) my joy and love with more people? Now instead of self-improvement, I focus on self-evolvement. This means I invite more L.U.C.K. – Love, Understanding, Compassion, and Kindness. This kind of luck brings a lightness and freedom independent of performance or other metrics.
Do you make resolutions? Intentions? Perhaps you treat each day, hour, or even minute as a chance for a new beginning. I’d love to hear how you realign to your highest good.